As I've told friends and family that I intend to compete in the 2006 Ironman Lake Placid race I get as many responses as people I've told. Some think I'm crazy, my Mom is worried (that's what Mom's do, right?), and some people wish me luck having no idea that I'm going to try and travel 140.6 miles in less than 17 hours.
One questions my Mom asked me that caught me off guard was why I wanted to do it? Seemed like a fair question. While I couldn't answer immediately I think it is because this sport has meant so much to me that it needed a little thought before answering.
My last race, the Timberman 1/2 Ironman, solidified my answer. I co-own a real estate company and every week I send a newsletter to my employees and agents with pertinent real estate market information and sometimes my view of various topics. The newsletter is usually just a couple of paragraphs, but I began to write my newsletter after finishing the Timberman race and before I knew it, I had written almost three full pages on Why I Tri… I've included what I wrote below:
This past weekend I participated and completed the Timberman 1/2 Ironman, my 2nd this year. It was a weekend that was a learning and life changing experience in a lot of ways. I hope that my comments and description of what I learned will help to inspire you to discover some of the same things I did.
To put this day in perspective you need to know that after my 1st 1/2 Ironman I passed out and had to receive 6 liters of IV fluid before being released from the hospital. Needless to say, that day in June was not a good day, physically. However, the race this past Sunday felt even worse, physically speaking. It took me almost an hour longer to finish this race than it took me to finish the first one.
I felt off almost the whole day. The 30 minute swim felt like it took an hour. Several times on the bike I felt like I was going to fall over from dizzy spells. On the run (which was my worst ½ marathon time) I went through bouts of nausea, dizziness, and stomach pains. There was a 1/2 mile stretch of highway on the run with absolutely no shade, no clouds, and it had gotten very muggy. The course went out and back on this road, twice. Every time I came to this 1/2 mile stretch of road it looked about 5 miles long. After the first time by I asked myself how the hell am I going to do this stretch three more times! I lost count of the number times I wanted to climb into one of the support vehicles and call it a day.
But I didn't. After 6 hours and 48 minutes as I approached the finish line I began to tear up. I saw Amy (my wife) standing on the side of the course near the finish line and lost it, I couldnt keep the emotion in any more. I havent seen the finish line photos yet, but Im sure they will show me wiping tears from my eyes.
Ive been fortunate to experience a lot of things in my life, some of them a little crazy. Ive climbed a 50 foot pole (thankfully tethered to a safety rope!) looking out over the Pacific Ocean in Hawaii (trusting that the rope was working as I took a leap of faith!). Ive done several fire walks crossing hot coals in bare feet at various Tony Robbins events. Ive been fortunate to witness the birth of my son. But, one of the most powerful experiences I have had was crossing the finish line on Sunday. Even though the day was so physically horrible, I learned as much about myself from this experience as all the other powerful things I mentioned above.
What I learned that day was a reference point that I will be able to use for the rest of my life. I learned how far I can go, how bad things can get, and what I can pull myself through. People go through their whole lives and not get to have that kind of experience. Even though I told myself several times during the race that there was no way I was going to do another race of this distance again, since finishing, I cant wait to do another one and learn more about myself and what I am capable of.
Why did I want to tell you all of this? Because I want each and every one of you to experience the same thing. Let me clarify before you call me crazy. While I dont wish upon any of you the level of physical suffering that I felt that day, I would like to suggest that a milder form of physical exertion is healthy and can impact you for the rest of your life.
Ive learned that people can have two very different levels of knowledge and understanding. One is intellectual and the other is emotional. For example, intellectually everyone knows that one shouldnt smoke. There is too much information out there about the dangers of smoking to think intellectually that smoking is good. However, smokers dont have an emotional understanding of how bad smoking is. The physiological attraction of that next drag is too strong. Otherwise, they wouldnt smoke.
You could apply this same concept to lead follow up. All of you know, intellectually, that if you follow up on leads right away and consistently, you will get more appointments, sell more houses, and make more money. However, we know that doesnt always happen for everyone. The reason may be that, emotionally, the connection or understanding isnt there. However, if you make the connection that not making the next call means that you wont make your next mortgage payment or be able to buy food at the grocery store, then the emotional connection begins to be made on a physiological level.
So this begs the question, how do you create an emotional understanding of something? Sometimes it is done out of necessity. When I first got into real estate, I had a mortgage and a wife who was in grad school and a new career that was commission only. When you need to pay your bills and put food on the table, an emotional connection is created on its own.
But do we need to put that kind of pressure on ourselves to understand what an emotional connection to ourselves feels like? I dont think so. I believe that pushing yourself physically to a point where you didnt previously think you could go has the same effect. Another way to understand an emotional connection is to think in terms of understanding with your heart and your head, instead of just your head. In other words, the understanding is physiological rather than mental.
So what does all this mean? The impact of physically pushing myself to new limits has been so powerful that I suggest you do the same thing. Create new reference points for yourself that you can access the rest of your life when things get tough or you approach a problem that you intellectually think is impossible. Im asking you to push yourselves beyond where you think you can go. Jump outside of your comfort zone. That doesnt mean that you need to go and sign up for a marathon or an Ironman. It may mean doing a 5K walk, then maybe a 5K run and then who knows? You may discover that finding new limits within yourself becomes addictive. I can tell you from experience that this is entirely possible!
Why a physical event? I have read and seen endless examples of peoples lives changing at the peak of a physical experience. When you get your whole body involved, you cant help but look at things from a different perspective. Physiologically, you increase your oxygen uptake, you get more blood pumping through your body, you think more clearly, and you feel better about yourself. The list goes on and on.
I cant force you to do anything. If I had that power over you, I would do it in a heartbeat. However, I know it is possible that some of you may not even try to create this new experience for yourselves. Resist that temptation. I urge you to go out and find an event that you never thought you would be able to do and sign up.
I will be happy to point you in any direction necessary and support whatever effort you want to make. I have become somewhat obsessive about physical training and have a few tips to offer for a beginner.
I know this was a lot and more than I usually put in our weekly newsletter. If you are still reading, I thank you. I hope that the description of my experiences will inspire you to create some new limits within yourself.